It took three days

This past week I was traveling out of the state for work. I spent the first two days in Washington DC, and then the last in Baltimore. It was a whirlwind of a trip – lots of work, lots of talking to clients, lots of hand shaking. I lost my voice on Thursday night, but otherwise felt fine and didn’t let it slow me down. I called home and spoke to my husband a few times when I had a few minutes here or there, but for the most part I was running around so much I had no time for anything else. It was Friday afternoon when I finally seemed to pause, look up, and realize I honest-to-god hadn’t even thought of my kids in the past three days.

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Is that wrong? Am I bad mom? I know there are moms out there who can’t abide leaving their kids for even a night – and when they do call every 30 minutes and worry constantly until they’re home. But apparently, not me. I enjoyed this past week. I enjoyed a three hour airplane flight where it was just me, and my coffee, and my laptop. I enjoyed the work, the fast pace, the hustle. I enjoyed the adult-only dinners at nice restaurants. I enjoyed three and half precious days of just being … me.

Every once in a while I get an email from a reader who disagrees with my decision to work at all – let alone out of the home, in a position that requires me to travel 4 – 5 times a year. The graceful thing for me to do would be to email them back as they come in, thank them for being so concerned with my children’s welfare, assure them I’m saving money for my kids’ immanent need for therapy, and leave it at that. However, since I have absolutely no intention of wasting my very limited free time with activities of that nature, I’ll just let them find this gem of a post and draw their own conclusions about the state of my marriage and my children’s home environment.

Whatever, ladies. I’m cool with your judging. You don’t know me, you don’t know my kids, and (hopefully) you don’t know my husband. I promise you, we’re all good. I swear that no amount of 3 night business trips that help me remember that I am more than ‘mom’ or ‘hey you with the fruit snacks’ is going to cause my kids to grow up to be serial killers. I would ask that you turn the concern that you seem to have with the state of my family around and focus on issues that actually exist – like world hunger, or human rights, or even the fact that George RR Martin seems incapable of finishing a series of books that has 95% of the nerds in this world hanging by their fingernails on the edge of a cliff.

We’re good. They’re thriving, And I am happy.





Snips and snails and puppy dog tails

This past weekend was a big one, here in the Tottums household.

new lab puppy

Obviously, I have lost my fucking mind.

This all started about two months ago when a coworker of mine emailed the whole company and said, ‘my brother’s dog got knocked up – puppies!!!’ and attached the sweetest photo of seven sweet babies ever. As I turned the laptop screen around and told the husband, ‘aren’t they sweet’? he got the look. The last time I saw the look it was 2007, and we were at a friend’s wedding when someone showed up with a baby. Guess who was pregnant 2 months later?

‘Tell her we’ll take one’ he said.

To make this short, imagine me spending the next eight weeks trying to talk him out of this. The biting, the chewing, the puddles of pee, the whining, what about when we travel?

new lab mix puppy

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We can all see how my protests worked out.

In the end, the puppies needed good homes, and we have one. Also? We have two boys with high energy levels that need their own dog. We love the Pug, but let’s be honest – a) He is MY dog. He’s great with the boys, but he tolerates them. b) I use the term ‘dog’ lightly – he’s really more of a cat with a canine teeth. This puppy will be a companion for THEM. She’ll grow up with them, she’ll play with them, and she’ll love them.

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That is, if she ever stops biting on them, chewing on them, tackling them, and generally pissing them off. It’s been 3 days now, and all four of us are bruised and in some cases bleeding, from needle sharp puppy teeth. Every time she sinks those tiny puppy teeth into my toes, I glare at the Husband. To which he scoops her up and gives me the look again.

I am such a freaking sucker.

playing with lab puppy

new puppy photo

Welcome, Chewbacca. We are all already under your spell.

Well, except the Pug. He’s not so sure about you yet.

Stitch Fix Review – Month 2

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Month two of Stitch Fix! I am really excited to share with you guys what came in my fun Fix this month. But first, in case you missed my February post and have no idea what I’m talking about, you can check out my first box here. Also, heads up, this post does contain referral links, but I have not been compensated for this post in any way.

This month’s box was SO MUCH FUN. I was pretty specific with my feedback after my first box, and was really pleased with what my stylist came up with for this second Fix. I specifically asked for more color, and items that were less structured/more comfy while (hopefully) still maintaining some level of professionalism (I know, I wasn’t asking for much, was I?). This is what I pulled out of my box this month:

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From left to right:

1. Pomelo – Corinna Striped Dolman Top – $48.00
2. Kensie Jeans – Kaleigh Ankle Biter Skinny Jean (white) – $88.00
Pomelo – Julia Utility Jacket (coral) – $78.00
Bay to Baubles – Mariposa Double Stone Pendant Necklace – $44.00
3. 19 Cooper – Cathleen Split-Neck Tulip-Sleeve Blouse – $68.00

I have to say, I really liked the style and color of all of these items – every one of them was right on target for me. In the end, I decided to keep the Julia Utility Jacket and the Corinna Striped Dolman Top. Both items fit me perfectly, were comfortable, and I feel comfortable with being able to wear them both on the weekends as well as to work. I doubt I will splurge on an outerwear item with every box, but I rarely buy new jackets or dresses so I don’t feel *too* bad.

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I also really liked the Cathleen Split-Neck Tulip-Sleeve Blouse … the color was amazing, and the detail around the neck and sleeves were really pretty. I passed on it because it was just tad too short; any time I stretched up, details that I would prefer not to show off … were shown off. With my short waist, and problem lower belly, I decided to try for a different style. The necklace in the photo above is my own.

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I also passed on the Mariposa Double Stone Pendant Necklace. I really liked the style, but I’m just really not cool with a $44 price tag for costume jewelry. I’m honestly not sure if I’ll request another accessory or not – mostly because I’m so cheap when it comes to pieces like this.

The last piece? The white Kaleigh Ankle Biter Skinny Jeans. Never in a million years would I have thought to pick out white jeans for myself, but oooooooh, did I love these. So ‘springy’, ya know? I passed on them only because they were a tad too tight in the thighs (don’t judge), and also the price. I know $88 isn’t unheard of for jeans, but it’s definitely more than I try to spend, and I wanted the jacket more.

All in all, I’m calling this Fix a win! I’m already signed up for my next Stitch Fix, but I have to wait until May because they’re SO popular right now! If you’re interested in trying it out, you can sign up here.

Also? If I keep doing these posts, I’m going to need to invest in a tripod/remote. I’m using this super cool app called CamMe, which worked well, but I wasn’t able to get good, clear shots. I’ll keep working on it!

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February Stitch Fix Review

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The second third birthday.

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In which I owe Pinterest an apology.

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Consignment Sale Shopping Tips

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Sometimes, I am the problem.

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Random January musings …

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